my husband is 30 years old since 1.5 years of marriage he is not able to ejaculate without masturbation…even after that it takes him minimum 30 minutes or sometimes he is not able to ejaculate..i want to conceive what should i do?

My boyfriend and I would like to try lubricants because I get tiny abdominal soreness every once in a while because it is very dry down there :p We plan to have children later after marriage and so forth, but we hear that lubricants like KY (which we are interested in) can cause infertility. Is that JUST if you were trying to conceive or is it ok to use until we are ready to try for conceiving in a few years? Sorry if that sound like i’m stupid, I’m just so confused!